Saturday, October 16, 2010

First Dress Fitting!

Yesterday at 6:00 pm I had my first official fitting for the dress. It wasn't too much to be excited over since it was just a line fitting, and there was no actual dress to try on, but it was still exciting because it's progress!

Liza had a piece of thin blue satin cut to the pattern of the body of the dress from the neckline to my thighs. It  was assembled from four panels sewn together that pinned closed in the back. They marked my waist, where the sweetheart neckline should dip to, how rounded the boob shields should be along with all sorts of embarrassing measurements, like where my boob chub ends, where my belly is and where it creases when I sit down. Ideally knowing all these embarrassing facts should help hide them from my guests on the day of the wedding, assuming I haven't worked them off yet. I have some hope for the little belly but I'm not sure about the boob chub, the only time I can recall not having it after puberty was when I worked out with a personal trainer in high school and it was more muscle than chub. Come to think of it, I'm not even sure if that counts since it was still there, just harder and creepier since it flexed when I moved like tiny aliens in my arm pits. Sorry for the TMI.

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Random dress pattern, in theory I have one of these too!

My next fitting isn't until December 10th so I have a little time to try and shrink the belly. If I manage to lose more weight between December and March, they can still alter the dress up until I take it from them which is awesome. I'm not sure how the weight loss is supposed to happen since I'm working out but haven't altered my diet (whoops) but hopefully it'll happen in time :) As my mother so lovingly told me, she thinks I have a fat back that I need to lose before the wedding. Then again she also told me that she doesn't care about me getting married, will dance at my wedding because she have to but really only wants to dance when I get into medical school and if I don't she'll be disappointed in me for the rest of my life. I know I have to invite her to the wedding being as she's partially paying for it, but I think i'll accidentally lose her invitation to any medical school acceptance parties I have, preferably in another state.

So, following that charming heap of maternal inspired self-loathing, yay! I have a dress pattern!

Monday, October 11, 2010

Marrying Your Sweetheart: Beds and Attachment Dating

As I've said, my honey and I have been together for 8 and a half years. Looking back on our past, you can trace the progression of our relationship through the beds we've shared together. When we first started dating we saw each other sporadically. After we became a couple, while I was in high school, we would see each other on Tuesday nights and over the weekends. I used to have late start on Wednesday mornings so my honey would spend the night on a blow up mattress next to the full size bed my grandma gave me and hang out a bit in the mornings. After my first year of college in the dorms where we occasionally tried to squish onto the extra long lofted twin, we moved in together, living like vagabonds a couple years here and a couple there. First we shared my honey's bed from his high school years, then a futon from when his dad was in college in a room that was ours instead of just his. At my mom's house it was a futon from a friend that my honey and our best friend broke when they jumped on it in my old bedroom. Finally, the room was redone and we got a bed that was ours.

Through this time I think I can count on my fingers, maybe my toes, the number of nights we've spent apart. We never intended to be "that" couple, the one that's always together and mushy mushy gag. The stars just kind of aligned and it happened. A few days in Oregon visiting family. A few days in Santa Cruz after we had our biggest and most difficult fight. A night apart for my friend's girls only pre-wedding party. Somehow, no matter what happens, at the end of the day we end up in the same bed. It's like we've been sleeping in the same bed for so long that it's become a "thing" and now it seems silly and wrong to break it. We may have never intended it to happen but we definitely go out of our way now to make sure it stays that way now, after so many years how can we not? After all the futons and dorm beds, our bed is big, comfy and red with too many pillows and an oversized down comforter. Sleeping on it is like sinking into a cloud and it makes me feel home, or at least as home as we can be before we're in our own home.

I know it's not always practical to be joined at the hip as my mom accuses us of being, but it's what's natural for us. We feel most right coming together at night, even if it means crawling into bed at 3am exhausted just so we can sleep next to each other. Mornings when I wake up and he's already gone would bum me out except there's usually a kitty there in his spot looking for a cuddle. Since our beds and homes have been kind of inconsistent, we have really made our home in each other. That sounds sappy but no matter what arguments we have, come morning we always end up with our oversized comforter skewed, legs tangled and pillows squished up against the wall. When we go on road trips we travel like gypsies with a big red back up quilt and tons of pillows.

When we finally move out I'm sure our bed will be transformed again. We have a full sized bed frame in our garage that matches our antique bedroom set that needs to be adjusted to fit our queen sized bed. We've had our beloved red bedding since I started college, replaced once with the same set again. If our wedding registry is followed we'll be upgrading to a more sophisticated version of the big red bed, one that will hopefully represent a new chapter in our life together. I just hope that no matter where we go or what bed we sleep in we continue to spend our nights together fighting over the blankets, and that we never have to spend more than a few nights apart.

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Well Phuck

When you start wedding planning everyone always says things are going to go wrong. It's like a mantra, designed to be chanted under your breath while calling vendors and making reservations

Somethingswillgowrong. Don'tfreakout. Somethingswillgowrong. Don'tfreakout.

I've taken a really laid back approach to wedding planning. A comfort over style approach from my shoes to the catering. Is it comfortable, does it taste good, is it fun? We really want to enjoy our day, not spend it freaking out over little details and whoopses and things that didn't go quite right.

To make our day as stress free as possible, I mapped out my priorities early on and I've been planning a lot of things ahead of schedule to prevent hiccups. My big can't-compromise-on-must-be-perfect "thing" was the wedding photography. I figured no one would remember if the food was good, what songs we played or what our flowers looked like, but the photographs of our night will last forever. When we are old and wrinkled and arguing about who has the best dentures, and subsequently who had the best teeth, we can look back on our wedding photos and compare chompers in our perfect wedding pictures.

It doesn't help that I'm slightly obsessed with photographs and art as well, I'm out of available wall and dresser space, I compulsively make photobooks and have a stack of beautiful frames waiting to be filled. I even registered for photo ledges because I'm just that obsessed. Photos capture a moment in time, like a window into the past and I'd never remember half the things I do if I didn't have a photograph to cue the memory.

All this brings me to the inevitable: we have a problem with our photographers. 

Everything was going so well. The nice to meet yous, first date, do we get along aspect went just dandy with David of Ohana Photographers. He's creative, funny, and easy going and we like to think we're equally awesome. We connected well and I think we'd be more than comfortable working with him and entrusting our precious memories into his capable hands. So where, might you ask, is the problem? Why the long, emotional, digressing post?   Oh readers, it's bad. The problem is the date. Our date, the date that's been our anniversary for the last eight years. Apparently, David's sister has taken a shine to the date as well, and has decided that she wants to get married on our day too.

Cue the angst.

Obviously, David cannot be at our awesome wedding and his sister's wedding at the same time. Obviously, family obligation, blood is thicker than water, etc etc means that he will not be able to shoot out wedding. This. Really. Blows. We're 6 months in to this planning thing, and most other photographers are booked. Even if we could find an available photographer, we've looked at just about every photographer between Los Angeles and San Diego and we really have our hearts set on Ohana. At this point, nothing can compare now that we've jumped in, both feet first, ready to get wet. How many photographers do you know that would bring buckets and umbrellas to an engagement session so they could chuck water at their clients? Or throw mass quantities of large, white balls in the air to snap the perfect picture? Don't even get me started on making out on cop cars, champagne piggy back rides and goofy groom face masks. Although a lot of it is the couple, Ohana really captures everything about the wedding that we want captured.

So, what do we do??? We could go forward with David photographing our engagement and possibly our trash the dress, while his associate photographs our wedding day. OR we could start from scratch and try to find a new photographer that hopefully has our date open and is awesome and up for some serious dorky fun. I just don't know what would be best. I also have a bad feeling that our less than favorite photographs on their website are from their associate though that could just be us projecting our angst. I was thinking that maybe if David threw the trash the dress in with the package we might be able to get over ourselves and give the associate a shot. That way if the associate's photographs of our wedding day suck, at least we have some photos by David of us in our wedding clothes....we'd just have to get hair and make up done again? Man, I just don't know.

What do you think? What would you do? What should we do? Why does the one thing you don't want to go wrong always go wrong when planning a wedding???

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

MCAT Score Release - A new form of torture?

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MCAT Pain

So tomorrow I should be getting my MCAT score. While the wait has been absolutely torturous, none of it has been quite so bad as the day before. I have that sinking feeling in my stomach that says "YOU BOMBED" and more often than not my stupid intuition is usually right. I suppose I shouldn't be surprised if I bombed, I'm generally a two test person who has to bomb a test to do well on it the second time but I was really hoping the MCAT would be different. The same thing happened with my SAT exam, I took it once and sucked and took it again and did well. I think more of it has to do with test anxiety than whether I actually know the material or not. The act of sitting in front of the computer to take the test empties my brain of it's previous knowledge and leaves me stumbling over even the simplest questions. I was hoping that practice exams would prevent the brain dump but I don't think they did. If I ever get through this and make it to medical school I should bookmark this post to look at when I bomb my USMILE for the first time.

I was really hoping for a 30 when I took the test but now I'm feeling like I got closer to a 20. Or a 2, depending on what mood I'm in. I don't think this round is going to be good enough to get me an acceptance but we'll know for sure tomorrow. The big question is, if I got a 2o do I even bother applying to DO schools? I don't want to go out of the country but I don't think even a DO school would take a 20 on the MCAT. Is it good experience to go through the application process or just a colossal waste of money? There are so many things to consider, especially the year long gap between application acceptances. What happens with the housing situation? Do we stay and bank 1500 a month to put toward a down payment, or do we move out and say screw the money to have some privacy? My honey's job is very unstable and unpredictable though, we often don't know how much work to expect from him month to month so I'm not sure it would be safe to move out. What would you do?

Okay. I got my score. No, I'm not telling. Yes, I need to take it again. Am I surprised? No. I blame it on standardized test freak out. Damn. Now I need to sign up for it again.

Friday, October 1, 2010

Marrying Your Sweetheart: The Meet The Couple Episode

As mentioned in my previous post, my honey and I have been together for a cool eight years. This is longer than most people I know have been married, and every day that passes that we don't strangle each other/throw a fit/accidentally kick each other in the face I count as a success. We're an unlikely pair if I've ever seen one, the cooking and animal loving Bio and English major with the sport obsessed, equally passionate and lazy cinema and television major somehow coexisting in relative harmony. I attribute our success to my love of cooking, his love of eating, and our mutual love of chocolate covered pretzels. But really, it's more like a weird system of give and take, lots of mistakes and our mutual love of arguing that's most likely to blame for our relationship (If I wasn't so set on being a doctor I could easily become a lawyer, just so I could be paid to debate are argue all day long). That and my cat liked him, which went a long way in his favor.

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A Friend's Birthday Party, August 2004

While we've been dating for eight years, we've actually known each other since we were about 7 or 8. As a tomboy, I found his pillow fighting skills satisfactory, his tree climbing skills acceptable and most importantly his video gaming skills entertaining enough to merit an easy going friendship. His green/blue eyes, sandy blonde hair and baby chubby cheeks did nothing for me, the ultimate boy child, until we reached 15 and 16, something clicked and he turned on the charm.

In high school he was pursuing a career in film, absolutely convinced he would be the next famous director. He had written many mostly sport related scripts (I kinda hate sports), including a short feature that he asked me to play a part in. Despite my complete lack of interest in acting (or any acting skills for that matter) I agreed, and we spent a few days a week together that summer running around my house with his mini DV camera. Little did I know the film was more of an opportunity to get close to me, a fact I probably should have realized upon reading the repeated "kissing" scenes in the script between the dashing athlete and his bride. Add in a heavy dash teenage hormones, a pinch of attraction, stir counter clockwise with 2 cups of water, and BAM! Instant relationship.

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Senior Portraits for High School, 2005

Somehow, we made it through going to different high schools on opposite sides of Los Angeles. I didn't drive but he did, so he used to drive over Tuesday nights since I didn't have class until 9am on Wednesday. We made it through going to two different colleges, pursuing wildly different career paths. He screwed up once when I first left for college, and while I've always taken a hard line of zero tolerance on cheating, I eventually forgave him (even if I wasn't able to forget his indiscretion). We grew up, made mistakes together and somehow our continuously changing goals and personalities continue to match up. My mother has this snarky saying she likes to throw around when we've done (or not done) something, "playing house". According to her, we've been playing house for 8 years, pretending at a relationship because two teenagers, then two twenty somethings, couldn't possibly have what it takes to make a relationship work.

Now, this time next year we will be married. I'm not sure if that will make our relationship any less "playing house" to my mother, but I'm excited to begin a new phase of our lives. I still don't like sports and he still isn't thrilled by my aquariums, but we still like to argue and together we somehow manage to make it work. I can't imagine being with someone who doesn't drive me as bat shit crazy as he does, and his life would be a lot more difficult without me reminding him to be his best self.

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Maid of Honor's Wedding, 2010

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

6 Month Check In

Wow! It seems like a lot has been happening really quickly in the past couple of weeks. I figured it was time for a six month wedding planning check in and give everyone an update.

The Dress

Yes, I have put down the deposit on my wedding dress!!! It ended up being a style I never would have chosen for myself but looks amazingly beautiful.

Saturday, September 25, 2010

Termites

There is quite possibly nothing grosser than bugs inside your house. Being as I live in Southern California and it's been in the high 90's - low 100's, we have termites. I don't know if they came in from under our house (unlikely) or from our neighbors house (they can fly 2000 feet!), but they wiggled in through the gaps in the window screens and are attempting to eat my furniture. It. Is. Gross! I've been killing the winged demons all day but I can actually hearing them burrowing into the peg holes in my closet system and into the shelf holes in my bookcases. Their squished striped bodies are filling up my trash can and their papery shed wings are littering my window sills. I can't accurately convey how upset this makes me. It feels like a losing battle.

Does anyone have a good exterminator?

UPDATE:

We have "localized" termites in my closet wall, three windows, a spot in the attic and a spot in the garage. I don't know how that really counts as localized, but the termite people want to freeze and bait them instead of tenting. Thank goodness. We still have to get a few quotes though before we can make up our minds, the first one wanted 1400 which seems like a lot.

Yeah scratch that. Apparently you're not allowed to freeze in California sooooo we have to tent both the house AND the garage which they've apparently eaten up entirely. Which is over 2 grand. UGH.

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Fur Children

Although I don't have any children of the human variety, I have many "children" of the animal variety, or fur babies if you will. I know not everyone has pets or bonds strongly with animals, but my animals are more family members than pets and there isn't anything I wouldn't do for them.

My oldest and most loyal companion would have to be my kitty cat "Haji Baba Prince of Cats". Haji came to me when I was nine years old as an 8 week old furry bundle of stripped spitfire. Spunky, playful and loving, I picked him easily out of a littler of equally stripey kittens living in a playpen in the back of a dress shop. Our bond was instantaneous and he used to follow me everywhere, sleeping curled against my head or on my chest at night. Haji has more personality in one paw than most people have in their entire body. At the young and vibrant age of fourteen, Haji is moody, arrogant, spoiled and vindictive. He's also loving, loyal to a fault, and absolutely dedicated to me. When he wants a snack, he walks to his food of choice and scratches on it until your ears start to bleed. He meows, pesters, picks and whines until he gets what he wants, even when multiple alternative food options available. Deny him long enough, ignore him, or the most unacceptable, go on vacation, and you will find your belongings deliberately peed on while you are watching. He can hold a grudge longer than I can, only drinks water when it's running, likes fillet mignon and cheese, dislikes fish and still sleeps on my chest or by my feet at night.

When I first went to college, I was forced to leave him at home, separating us for longer than a couple weeks for the first time. Not only did he pine, but he mourned so deeply that he became depressed, listless and eventually acquired both food allergies and serious asthma. My chubby boy went from a hefty 15 pounds to 7 pounds and I was scared I might be losing him. After 5 different vets and hundreds and hundreds of dollars he was eventually diagnosed, put on medication and a food restricted diet. He now eats only grain-free organic food, gets a monthly injection of a corticosteroid and a twice daily bronchodilator to control his asthma. The steroid which enables him to breath makes him vulnerable to diabetes and urinary tract infections, so we carefully monitor his health. His last vet visit, another three hundred dollars I don't have to spend, showed that in spite of all his problems he's in excellent health and I expect to have him with me until he's 30.



My next fur baby is my sweet little girl Button, or Buttonwillow McKitten. Button came to me much later than Haji, when I learned that there was a colony of feral cats living on my college campus. While mostly happy and fed by the requisite crazy cat lady, the kittens of these ferals were often eaten by coyotes, run over by drunk or unobservant college students or victims of extreme flea anemia. I couldn't possibly bear to see another squished little body on the pavement so a little under 4 years ago I set out to catch as many of the kittens as I could. At this point, the two surviving kittens were already about 3-4 months old, too old by most standards for socialization. This of course couldn't possibly deter me, so everyday for a week I climbed down the side of the hill that they lived on and sat with my cat carrier and a can of food, trying to lure them inside.

One kitten, the boy, was larger, more trusting and more playful, and would come close to the carrier without too much encouragement. The other kitten, a girl, was smaller, skinnier and much more nervous, following her brother but with great caution. I was convinced that I would be catching the boy first as he would almost enter the carrier to eat the food. Day after day I tried to lure them in, until eventually the little boy walked halfway inside. I really, Really wanted to trap him, but he wouldn't move far enough inside for me to close the gate. After half a minute he backed out of the carrier, and a friend of mine who had come with me took off her shoelace to try and lure him back in. To our great surprise, it was the scrawny little girl who pawed after the string, and after a few breathless minutes she walked into the carrier. It was too good an opportunity to pass up, so I tripped the door closed and she was caught. Her brother on the other hand, being bigger and stronger, was never caught despite repeated attempts and still lives on the campus today. I was able to catch two other older kittens there who had been abandoned, and they found homes with my friends.

Socializing Button was a lesson in patience and trust. I tried every socialization trick I could find but she refused to respond to any of them. Eventually, the turning point came when she stepped in her water bowl, tipped it into her litter pan and got herself covered nose to tail in thick clay litter. Overnight the litter dried to paste in her fur, and by the morning she was not a happy camper. It took me 2 hours to pick and wash the clay from her fur by hand, but by the end of it she was finally mine. After medical treatment for her flea anemia, lots of food, her alteration and her shots, she is by far the most loving kitty ever. She is still wary of other people and extremely shy around strangers (if you're lucky you'll see her fluffy tail slip under the bed), but she adores me and sleeps on her back in my arms and licks my nose and chin at night. She likes her belly rubbed the most, has big golden owl eyes, white ear whiskers and has the softest, silkiest black fur I've ever felt on a cat. She doesn't have a mean bone in her body, lives only in my room and has a dainty sweet little meow. She thinks she's a baby and is certainly my sweet baby girl who nearly gave me a heart attack when we went on vacation last year and she got stuck under the house. My honey and I drove back from Oregon through the night to get home, and he had to go under to rescue her since my boobs prevented me from fitting under the pipes.



Our animal family also contains my mother's rescue Sheltie named "Pippin", a walking sausage on legs, Zena, my grandma's fluffy boy kitty, and Devlin, the mischievous siamese/tabby that I found at a rescue for my sister. Devlin was also difficult in his own way, as he fell off my sister's bunk bed and broke both his hips at a year old. One surgery and over a thousand dollars later, he is a happy healthy 4 year old that spends most of his time sleeping or tormenting Haji and Zena.

In addition to my furry loves, I have a 110 gallon aquarium that I obsess over. It's a freshwater planted aquarium home to my angelfish and rainbows and I don't even want to think about the hours and the hundreds thousands I've sunk into it lol.

What about you guys? Have any high maintenance pets, possibly more work than your human children? Anyone else love their fur babies like crazy whoa?