The Times They Are A-Changin'

When I went in for my baseline ultrasound, a friendly nurse I haven't really worked with pulled me aside and informed me that I had neglected to fill out a necessary form. Apparently I had been listed as "single" in the computer instead of "married" and since I have a partner, they needed both our signatures for consent with the fertility treatments.

She started going through the forms, looking for the correct ones, and asked me to confirm that I have a partner or spouse.  I automatically said "Yes, I'm married" without thinking too much about it. The nurse paused for a moment, looked at me, and then asked "Is your spouse male or female?" I have to say, I was so impressed and proud in that moment that I almost hugged the nurse. I know it's probably a standard question, especially when a donor is involved, but it's amazing how far we've come and I have such high hopes for the future. I made a point of thanking her, told her how much I appreciated it, and collected the forms E and I will have to sign.

Yes

In the wake of the Wisconsin same-sex marriage ban falling to the wayside like so many of it's unjust fellows, I have so much hope that my children will get to grow up in a world where people aren't discriminated against based on gender or sexual orientation. It's so close I can almost see it coming over the horizon.

Down with DOMA

Today, the Supreme Court struck down DOMA, the Defense of Marriage Act, and California's Prop 8 as unconstitutional. I am so proud of our country for finally recognizing that there can be no freedom without equality. What a monumental victory for human rights.

Congratulations to all my dearest friends and family who can now enjoy the same rights and privileges their heterosexual counterparts have been enjoying for centuries.  It's about damn time.

2 Years Married and Marriage Equality

Yesterday E and I celebrated our second year of marriage, on the same day that Gays and Lesbians took their fight for equal rights to the supreme court. I have to say it felt bittersweet to celebrate our happy, nationally recognized union while so many of those dear to me don't have the right to marry the people they love.

E and I were hoping to celebrate with some lovely, much needed massages, but as it turned out there was no availability at the massage center. Instead, we went to a delicious Italian dinner and got some amazing gelato, not a bad replacement if I do say so myself.  We had a lovely time, fairly low key, and it felt just perfect.

Two/eleven years in and E and I are so ready to take our family to new places. We're itching to expand, to buy some property, add a new fur baby, add a tiny human etc.  I'm looking forward to spending the rest of my life being married to E, as all couples should have the right to do, and I hope that this next year will bring with it big changes for equality and for our little family.