Today was E's urological consult with what turned out to be the director of the department. He was an excellent doctor, really down to earth and honest without being overly optimistic or depressing. E's physical exam was normal, as we had all expected, and the doctor ordered blood work and semen analysis number 3. We're waiting on the results of the blood work now and semen analysis number 3 will be on Monday.
More importantly, he advised us to manage our expectations. Don't get too high or too low. He said he has seen so many couples spend hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to get pregnant without success. That more often than not, people were not the exception to the rule and that he defined success as a baby in your arms, while most clinics define it as a positive test. That we shouldn't tie our self worth in with our ability to have biological children.
On the downside, he seemed to be laying the ground work for what sounded like inevitable bad news. He talked about friends who have wonderful adopted children. How the most important thing is E and I together as a couple, that we're here because we love each other and to not lose sight of that. I know that it's easy to do, that the stress of treatment, the hormones and failures can take its toll on your body and mind. That having a child can come to mean two different things to each partner and that even a strong relationship can be sorely tried.
The doctor said that if E's FSH results come back with a level like 40, we have no hope of having E's biological babies. Right now we're hoping for normal blood work to indicate a mechanical problem somewhere in the factory. Mechanical problems might be fixable, while high FSH, like my high FSH, can't really be fixed. He said that if a mechanical problem is indicated, that a biopsy would be the next step. Since he agrees IVF is our only shot right now, if he found viable sperm while E was opened up, he would collect and preserve them for IVF. I think this would save E a procedure, and potentially lots of money, since I don't think E can product viable sperm via ejaculate.
Overall, we were happy with E's new urologist. Now we just have more waiting, for lab work, for the SA, for some indication of what our next step is. We also need to determine whether we want to continue treatment with Kaiser and pursue their IVF clinic, out of pocket of course, or stick with the clinic we had our initial consult with. The urologist spoke highly of one of the IVF doctors in particular, and said he would introduce us, but I'm not sure they'd even be willing to treat me with my FSH as high as it is.
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