Rolling the Dice, Fingers Crossed

After much discussion, some tears, and a whole lot of wallowing in self pity, E and I have cleared our heads, discussed our different options and decided to roll the dice. Beginning with my next period, we are going to be attempting IUI.

We went with this incredibly scary decision for a number of reasons.

Success. For starters, this is our best chance. People with Fragile X Premutation infertility don't respond well to the stimulation hormones required for IVF, so I am unlikely to produce many eggs for PGD testing. Most have better luck getting pregnant naturally, or with IUI as long as their ovaries are still functioning. I'm not entirely sure why this is. With the extra methylation of my CGG repeats, it could be that the protein necessary for ovarian stimulation is being used up by extra mRNA :/  My FMR1 gene is still functioning just fine since I don't have Fragile X, I have normal brain develop and am intellectually normal, but there's definitely some deficiency in my ovaries.  I'm hoping that since I'm still ovulating without assistance that my ovaries will oblige me and respond at least decently to the IUI drugs.

Cost. It feels horrible to be basing fertility decisions on money, but there's no way to get around the cost of IVF. Given my likely poor response to stimulation, we'd probably have to do IVF, or at least mini IVF, several times. Although Kaiser will cover PGD, it will still run us 20-30k per cycle.  Mini IVF would be less expensive, but we'd only get 1-2 eggs per attempt and 50% of them would probably be positive for Fragile X. Kaiser will cover unlimited IUI attempts for us, although the national average is about 4 attempts per pregnancy and most people don't try more than 6 times if they're unsuccessful. If IUI produces no results after several attempts, we will still have IVF in our back pocket and USC Fertility will give us a 20% discount because we're Kaiser members.

Information. Even if IUI doesn't work, I'll be taking the drug Menopur which is also used for IVF. Given that it takes awhile to figure out the right combination of hormones to stimulate ovarian production, IUI will give us a lot of information on how my body responds. Although we're only trying to stimulate one or two eggs with IUI, it would be nice to know if my body can be stimulated to make more so we'd have more for PGD.

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On the flip side, we're taking a very big risk with IUI. We have a 50% chance that if it works, our baby would have Fragile X and we would have to terminate. Since we won't be able to do any testing on the embryos beforehand, we'd have to rely on CVS testing at 10-11 weeks. The cells would then have to be cultured, which could take up to two weeks, and then tested which could add another week. We probably wouldn't have an answer until 14 weeks and then we'd either get good news or bad news. Our RE has suggested that we schedule a termination in advance to make sure we wouldn't have to wait even longer in case the news was bad.

The notion of terminating a desperately wanted baby is terrifying. I'm a strong supporter of women's rights and fiercely pro-choice, but I never thought I'd be in a position where I'd have to make this decision. We spent so many years carefully trying to avoid pregnancy, and if we'd been 16 and stupid I think we would have terminated without guilt because it would have been the right decision. At this point in our lives I naively assumed that we'd be taking home any baby we got pregnant with, when the reality is that 50% of the time we won't be.

I'm also not sure how many terminations I could endure. I know other carriers of horrible diseases often undergo several terminations for medical reasons, but if IUI works and we have to terminate the baby, I'm not sure if I could try IUI again. It would still be our best chance for getting pregnant but I just don't know if I could take that chance again. I really hope we won't have to.

Options: IVF with PGD or IUI

People in my situation have two not so fabulous but viable options for having a healthy genetically related baby.

Option A: IVF with PGD, my eggs and donor sperm
Option B: IUI, my eggs and donor sperm

Option A is quite expensive. It would involve doing IVF which would run us about $20-$30k. I am unlikely to respond well to stimulation so we aren't likely to get very many eggs, no matter how many hormones they throw at me. Any eggs we did get would be fertilized with donor sperm and biopsied on day 5 for PGD testing.  Luckily, Kaiser will cover PGD which will save us about $8,000 but it can be hard on the embryos and not all will make it. If we were lucky enough to have healthy embryos, we would do a FET, or frozen embryo transfer and hope that they take. We may potentially need to do IVF several times to get healthy, viable embryos.

Option B is essentially a roll of the dice with 50/50 odds. We would do an insemination with donor sperm and hopefully get pregnant. We would then do CVS testing as soon as possible, probably around 11 weeks, and then wait with everything crossed for the results to come back. If they come back negative, we get to have a healthy baby. If they come back positive, we would need to terminate the pregnancy. Kaiser will cover unlimited IUIs for us, so the bulk of the expense would be donor sperm, about $4,000 for 5 vials, but we would have to endure a 50% chance of terminating a desperately wanted pregnancy at around 14-15 weeks. I don't know how I'm going to cope with that.

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Our other options for a baby would be using an egg donor and sperm donor, adopting left over embryos, or adopting a baby.

I was originally leaning heavily towards IVF with PGD but IUI may potentially yield better results. People with FXPOI have a better chance of getting pregnant naturally or via IUI since we respond so poorly to fertility drugs. E is on board with either decision, though he would strongly prefer the option that doesn't bankrupt us.